Unhooking
Your Patterns
1:1 sessions for self-observation and pattern work
Observing Yourself
This isn't conventional coaching work. It's something more fundamental.
Learning to observe yourself as you're actually living. To catch the moment when the pattern activates, before it takes you over.
This is the work of self-observation. Not analysing or judging yourself, but witnessing what's happening as it happens. In the midst of your actual life.
We work with the patterns that cost you the most. Anger that damages relationships. People-pleasing that exhausts you. Perfectionism that never lets you rest. Disconnection from your body when things get hard. Thoughts that loop endlessly without resolution.
Not seeking to fix or transcend them. But to see the automatic machinery clearly enough so it stops running you unconsciously.
You're Caught Up
The autopilot is running on overdrive now
Body tense and contracting in the face of criticism.
Shutting down and exhausted by conflicts.
Anger boiling over as your boundaries are relinquished again and again.
These predictable patterns constantly catching you out.
Flooding your peace, overwhelming presence.
You've read the books, set your intentions, made your promises,
And keep ending up back in the same place.
Why won't these cycles just stop?
Stop. What? Stop trying to stop them.
Observing is the way out, the unhooking.
I know what it's like to be caught. What it takes to observe yourself without judgement. And what becomes possible when you can see your patterns clearly enough to choose a different path.
I've supported people for over a decade to unhook from patterns that keep them stuck. This work draws from somatic awareness, self-observation practices, and developmental psychology.
I'll help you develop the capacity to observe your patterns before you disappear into them.
How We Work
We typically meet online for 60 - 90 minutes a month over 6 - 12 months. £150 per hour.
You bring what's alive for you. The situations where the pattern shows up. Times you couldn't stop acting out. or abandoning yourself under pressure.
We'll work somatically, tracking what's happening in your body, noticing where the tension lives. Feeling into the pattern before you disappear into it. We'll work with it developmentally, understanding how the pattern formed, what it's protecting, why it made sense.
And slowly, session by session, you develop the capacity to really observe yourself. The ability to walk alongside yourself as the pattern activates within you. And learn how to unhook yourself when you're already in the pattern. To feel the habitual reaction and not follow its predictable course.
This isn't quick work. The patterns have been running you for decades. But over time, you'll gain real freedom. Not the freedom of never having the pattern arise, but the freedom of seeing it clearly enough that it no longer runs you automatically.
Is This For You?
This approach best serves people who:
- know they're going round and round in circles
- are tired of reacting in ways they regret and want real choice
- are willing to work with their body, not just their mind
- can tolerate the discomfort of seeing themselves honestly
- want the capacity to unhook themselves, not just advice
If this speaks to you, let's talk. Book a free call here:
Stop Trying. Start Observing
Read my substack on what happened when I was finally forced to look at myself and see my habits for what they really are.